Spiritual Awakening

Spiritual Awakening - Why You May Lose Friends

Spiritual Awakening - Why You May Lose Friends

As a result of a spiritual awakening, you may lose friends. It feels really painful to lose a friend because you are no longer on the same wavelength as them and you no longer share anything in common. The loss of a part of yourself grieves the time with the friend you have lost. 

It can be difficult to let go of these relationships, but it is often necessary in order to move forward on your spiritual journey. Friends who are not supportive of your new path may need to be let go. This can be a painful process, but it is often necessary for growth.

Why does it matter that you are not liked?

It's my goal to get you to stop wanting those that hurt you like you. I want to see your inner reaction change so that instead of feeling "Ooh, that sounds awesome!", you feel “ I don’t think so….thanks!" I am trying to influence you to find peace. It's not about me, it's about you. As you will see in my writing that follows, the greatest trap is wanting to be liked by everyone. This is the belief that “being liked” is equivalent to being a good person.

This is because you fear that being unliked is going to hurt you. I have probably inherited the same beliefs as you: people who are kind are liked. It's the same thing as love, empathy, kindness, and caring for others. We need to define “being liked” and show what it is to help you get over these friendships as spiritually your awakening has connected this friendship as not serving you anymore.

Why is it so painful to lose friends during a spiritual awakening?

Because we don’t really expect to lose friends when we grow and build spiritually. Before you panic, it's important to understand that this does not necessarily mean your friends no longer love you. Your relationships may be changing in many cases. You may discover that you no longer have anything in common with your old friends as you become more aware of your own spiritual journey. It can be difficult to deal with, but remember that this is a natural part of the process. Try to embrace your spiritual awakening if you're experiencing one. Maybe you'll meet some new friends who are on the same journey as you. There are many things you could be doing. Self-confidence, sincerity, communication, and independence are all possible when you are not inhibited.

Wanting to be liked is conditioned based on fear. Remember you shouldn't be in pain, humiliated, criticized, agitated, or agitated in any way. When it comes to telling friends that this is not good then there's nothing wrong with that. There is a difference between wanting to be liked and being real. Spiritually this means being authentic, truthful, and straightforward.  If you have conflict or disagreements with a friend, then you should be as open, Professional, and considerate in your dealings. Assertiveness is being vocal and understanding that the spiritual awakening will mean losing people that are not right for you.

Maybe you are having a hard time coping with the fact that they are gone and you won't be able to see them again. It is possible that you feel guilty, and try to find answers to what could have been done to prevent the loss. The loss of a friend is one of the most difficult things that can happen to anyone --- you keep going over all the situations or conversations in your head. We all want to maybe reconcile these friendships but obviously, this has gone now.

Is there a problem with me?

You may find that you keep going over the relationship over and over to find out where it went wrong. Like you, I find it hard to let go, and I find it even harder to move forward. In life, through friendships I have lost I have learned to stand up straighter and to look people in the eyes. I have learned to be braver and more assertive ... and I have become more through various spiritual experiences. Friendships should be filled with love, thoughtful, and caring but when they end it can be painful. The important thing to remember is that you cannot raise the dead, if someone in your life is not supposed to be there anymore then let them go. Why keep trying? Think of your life as an elaborate story with all the pieces of the puzzle. 

What does it mean if you find moving on from the friendship hard?

It's okay to be sad, and it's okay to cry. In the end, though, you have to pick yourself up and carry on with your life. It's okay to feel alone, just remember that you aren't. You will overcome this, even though it seems impossible right now.

Having a spiritual awakening is not the same for everyone. It is impossible to generalize spirituality. Spiritual journeys are as unique as individuals. As such, spiritual awakenings often have some commonalities. The first is that you may begin to lose friends.

Knowing who you are and what you believe in is the opposite of wanting to be liked. It is in your nature to hold power. You have the power to choose what you want. The inner voice of your mind is probably telling you that you can deal with this.

What are the stages of spiritual awakening?

Spiritual awakening is just the beginning of a long journey of spiritual growth. Upon awakening, the tectonic plates move and shock waves ripple through your entire being, your core being undergoes a profound transformation as a result. Over time, the awakening will grow as you gain more clarity about yourself. Living in harmony with your new spiritual journey will become natural to you. As you awaken to the truth, old stories and beliefs will eventually be replaced by the truth, and so does friendships, which I will discuss shortly.

A tidal wave may sweep across some people's lives, leaving nothing behind. The right guide will be able to help you, regardless of whether your world seems to be crumbling around you. Transformation can be a slow and invisible process for some people. You feel like you are walking through the fog while slowly getting wet. 

Over the years, I have broken down the awakening process into three key stages based on my own experience and experiences. The stages are: seeking, awakening, understanding, and awakening lifestyle. I am going to share with you a detailed explanation of each of these stages and what this means to your friendships. The spiritual awakening starts and ends with you. Spiritual discovery is meant to calm the mind and allow the process of unfolding to unfold. 

Here's a quick overview of the stages that I will be explaining.

  • Spiritual Seeking: this is when you will start to move towards spiritual development. If you are not clear or complete after your first awakening, you can continue to seek guidance.
  • Spiritual Awakening: The end of searching comes in the wake of a genuine, nonconceptual, and direct awakening. You have found the truth of your true nature, you know who you are and what you look like.
  • Understanding and life force: Most cases of awakening continue to unfold and clarify as you move through life. This is similar to how you might see a familiar face but slowly begin to uncover the details as you get closer. The friends you have may not be able to live up to your potential. Therefore, your actions will radiate truth if you are a living example of who you want to be.

The awakening nature of some people takes years to reclaim, while that of others just happens upon They did not meditate or inquire deeply into them. Despite being plainly visible, your true nature remains unknown. It's hard to find because you don't know where to look. Instead of telling you to break the code or overcome the barrier, you should listen to the teachings. I will reveal the secret in a moment.

If you look straight ahead the nose is invisible to the naked eye. In order to see your nose, you will need to adjust your eyes. The source of all sight is rarely considered because we are conditioned to focus on external objects. Our vision's source is dependent on our brain, I have recently seen a relative lose some of her eyesight and her vision changed. Spiritual awakening is like looking at the nose and not what is ahead, like my friend when your vision changes your perception changes.

In a spiritual awakening, we need to be kind to others but not be quiet and humble. The awakening may mean you need to focus on succeeding, winning, being assertive, and possibly demanding of others. Spiritual awakening is about being honest with yourself and this could include being selfish, blunt, tough, impetuous, curious, being truthful. Expressing yourself differently like in the spiritual awakening could cause these relationships to move forward and maybe break. It is about how you are now coming across, and there is nothing wrong with being yourself.

How does it feel when you are waking up?

When we wake up we begin to see things as they are. It is like a “Eureka” moment. You start to look over all that has happened between you and your friend. The real person who lives and thinks through your eyes can now see past the illusion of the separate self. There is no point in going over this over and over. It is possible to know who you are, but not how.

Think of your friend as a coat on a hanger being hung on a wardrobe. You might not need this coat anymore if you change your outfit. Everything you can look at, listen to, sense, taste, and touch--is an experience. Spiritual awakening is the ability to awaken to the observer, the higher being, the one who is always aware. You might think about friends and what they have said to you in the past, present and future. Although words cannot possibly capture the vastness and mystery of the relationship, they can serve as pointers. 

What happens when friends grow apart?

As friends age, they may grow apart. It's only natural that friendships will fizzle out over time due to people's changing interests and lifestyles. When it occurs, it can be difficult to handle. It is important to remember that this is normal and you should not feel ashamed or guilty about it. If you are no longer close to someone, it doesn't mean you have done anything wrong. Here are some tips to make the transition easier:

Get in touch with your friend and let him/her know what's going on. Having an understanding that friendship is changing can make it easier to deal with. Positive thinking is key. You should instead focus on the good memories and the things you have in common instead of dwelling on what you have lost. Keep in touch with each other. Staying in touch via text, social media, or other means is a great way to stay connected when you don't see each other as much.

Make new friends without being afraid. It's not impossible to find new friends to fill the void left by your old friends if it changes. Change is inevitable. Feeling sad about the way things are is okay, but don't beat yourself up about it. Embrace change as a natural part of life and move on.

Summary of losing friends to a spiritual awakening

Over the course of a lifetime, you have built a world of personal beliefs and identities that have encapsulated you. All beings are unlimited, which reveals their true nature. Despite the old stories sometimes returning to reaffirm their authority, they usually dissolve quickly when inquired about and investigated. If your mind is clear, even temporarily, it's easier to recognize and let go of ideas. 

By Flo Saul
Nov 1, 2022