Marriage Dream Meaning

More times than I can count people have written to me asking about this dream. Marriage is one of those dreams that stay with you when you wake, whether it brought you joy or the dream left you feeling a bit off.

In all my years as a medium I have sat with this dream many times for myself and for those who come to me for tarot readings on marriage, and what I have learned in all my years is that dreaming of marriage is never just a wedding, and it goes beyond that. What this dream is telling you is commitment. Not necessarily commitment to another person but commitment to yourself, to a belief, to a way of living. And, for me, these are things most dream dictionaries miss. 

How do you dream of getting married?

People have written to me and said they saw in a dream a wedding the night before: starting a new job, moving or leaving a relationship. A marriage dream comes into dreams during serious decisions or shifts in reality. I do feel your subconscious mind is telling you of the moment. If the wedding in the dream felt lovely and was a blessing, that is a good sign. 

This is your inner self knowing that a blessing is coming. If something feels off, maybe the wedding dress is not fitting or the venue is wrong or you dread walking down the aisle and you trip up, then this is about the fact you are not ready to commit to something. There is something about the "commitment" you are making in waking life which does not yet feel right.

What does it mean to dream of marrying someone you are not with?

This is probably the most common question. Or someone writes to me and says - I dreamed I married my boss, or my best friend, or some stranger. And they want to know if it means they have feelings. Sometimes it does, but it is more often about a quality that person represents to you. It is a tricky question to answer but I do feel there is some energetic tie when you have this dream. We are all frequency after all, and the energy is showing that this person must have thought about you for you to have this dream.

What does it mean to dream of someone you love marrying someone else?

I must say that this one is painful and people deserve a straight answer. I often find this involves some insecurity or jealousy. When you worry about losing someone or feel like someone else is getting what you want, it comes up, and your unconscious wants to put your fears before you so you can not avoid them any longer. That does not make the fear actual. But it does mean something inside of you needs addressing. If this dream keeps happening (over and over), ask yourself - what am I afraid of losing and why?

What does it mean to dream of a unhappy marriage?

In a dream, an unhappy marriage is a commitment that has lost its sense of happiness, warmth and light. What you once felt safe with, maybe a relationship, a job or belief about yourself is really not giving you what it used to. But this dream I feel is an invitation to examine what can change.

What does it mean to dream about a wedding gone wrong?

This is more an anxiety dream than anything else. I have had emails from people in panic after this dream, thinking it means their relationship is over. What this usually means spiritually is that you are carrying this fear of things going wrong, that the commitment will not hold, that you are not good enough, that something will go wrong before you get there. The dream shows you the anxiety, not the future.

How do you dream of marriage when you are already married?

This one comes up a lot in my tarot readings. If you are already married and you dream of having a wedding (your own or a new one) it is often your inner self (maybe your inner child) reaffirming something. It shows up for me when a couple goes through a difficult time and something settles between them before they even know it. This also may manifest itself in your decision to commit again to yourself, to your own values, your own path, to your own way of life.

My conclusion

So whatever version of this dream you had, take away this: marriage in the dream world is not a ceremony. It depends on what you are saying yes to. Every time this dream comes along it asks you (what are you committed to right now?) and does that commitment still serve you in becoming who you are becoming? The people who take that question seriously in my years indicates that in everything there is commitment there to some degree in your life right now.