Dream About Your Ex Dying

Dreams of dying ex

Dream About Your Ex Dying

It's often upsetting when you dream of your ex-partner suddenly dying. Last night I actually had a dream about an ex dying and I woke up crying.

So if you've been having recurring dreams about your ex --- take a minute to laugh at the absurdity (because dreams are weird, right?), and then ponder what it's trying, in its own peculiar way, to tell you. After all, our dreams are just the wild stories we tell ourselves at night, and everyone loves a story with a hidden meaning..

Dreaming about an ex can be a worrying (and powerful) experience, even more so when the dream involves something as distressing as the death of that person. It's the kind of dream that might cause you to jolt awake and spend the next few minutes trying to shake off the eerie feeling it leaves in its wake. And although it might be tempting to dismiss such dreams as random firings of your sleepy subconscious, they often hold more meaning than we initially think.

First up, I've been around the heartbreak block enough times to know that these dreams often reflect the intricate workings of our inner minds. The knee-jerk reaction might be a cocktail of guilt and worry. Why am I dreaming of something so morbid? Is this a dark side of me I didn't know existed? But hang on, let's slow our roll on the self-accusation train. Most dream analysts would tell you that dreaming of death often means a simple ending or a change, rather than a literal loss of life. 

It was a crazy dream which seemed real. In my view, dreaming of an ex-partner dying can indicate that you are potentially worried about a situation in life. Recurring dreams about them dying can provide insight and such a dream indicates our conscious mind analyzing the situation.

Was this a visitation dream?

There is a focus in dreams that there is an intention on visitations from the spirit and some believe that dreaming about someone dying (who is already dead) can be powerful in terms of accepting the grief. In other words, the dream can help you with the power or anxious feeling of being out of control due to losing a loved one in real life. With these types of dreams, which often accompany pain and grief in life, we are not in the right space when someone passes. We must try to express some hope that the dream has been sent as a focus on coping with loss in life. Indeed, the purpose of the dream could be a spiritual visitation. To dream of someone you know dying results in terrible events in the dream and can be connected to how we are suffering in real life. The dream could be sent to you due to the healing power that we hold, while we sleep.

What does it mean when you dream about your ex-partner dying?

I know that this dream can be worrying and someone dying in a dream can have an effect in the morning. It can be rather heart-wrenching when we dream about someone we know dying as I already detailed above, especially someone that we use to love. And while some dreams leave us wanting to understand more, other dreams can turn into nightmares because of the way they present themselves.

Bad dreams and nightmares about dying are often connected to our own anxiety. No matter if it’s your own or the death of someone you know in waking life the dream about someone dying is all about “transformation.” A violent death in dreams can be pretty scary and disturbing. However, dreaming of someone dying in a violent event can cause damage to our conscience because we’re the ones dreaming of their death. There are many ways that death itself is presented in dreams. Some spiritual practitioners believe that dreaming about death is a negative sign, while others interpret death as good luck in waking life – focused on new starts and beginnings. According to the assumption that death is lucky, having a dream about your ex dying equals the fact that one will live a long and happy life. There’s no logic included in the interpretation of death dreams. Dreams are a product of our thoughts in waking life. What we fear or want to happen appears real in our dreams. Here I am going to specifically focus on what it means to dream about someone dying. It could be a family member, a friend, a work colleague or even someone you do not know. The thing I want to reiterate is that no matter what dying in dreams is all about new beginnings.

For a while I kept having a dream my ex partner passed on. I can recall one particular dream when I was trying to save his life. In the dream, I was holding his hand. There was no scene or sound. Dreaming of my ex partner passing on (as he lived in real life) made me think about how much the relationship means to me. I think if you do dream of your partner's death it is just naturally a fear of losing that person.

Is dreaming of death a premonition?

No. To dream of death is not a prediction of death in waking life. Sometimes, death occurs in waking life after dreaming of dying but that doesn’t mean that our dreams can predict death. What we dream is a mix of our conscious and subconscious minds. When you’re conscious, the thoughts that dominate your mind are the ones creating your dreams. You’re probably wondering why you dreamt of death if you don’t like the idea of dying. Maybe it’s your subconscious fear projecting your own fears. Or some negative experience, trauma, illness, and an effect of medication or negative thinking led you to dream of death. To dream of death can be explained and interpreted differently. When dreaming of death, you should ask yourself what your fears are.

So maybe, just maybe, dreaming about your ex taking their final bow is your mind’s dramatic curtain call, signaling that the relationship is over and done with. Finished. Kaput. It's not about wishing them harm; it's about acknowledging that what you had has run its course and it's time to lay those emotions to rest.

Now, I know the idea of closure is as elusive as finding a comfortable sleeping position on a plane, but this dream could be nudging you towards exactly that: closing the book on a chapter of your life that's been read, re-read, and worn at the edges.

Humor me for a second and consider the scenario. In the dream, you're probably not the one causing their death. It's not a "whoopsie, I pushed my ex off a cliff" scenario (at least, I hope not). You're more likely a spectator to their sudden exit from your dream-world stage. This detail is significant because it reinforces the idea of you being detached from the relationship.

And here's where it gets interesting. How do you feel in the dream after it happens? If you wake up feeling oddly at peace, it could be a sign that you're ready to embrace new beginnings. Maybe you’re poised to take up salsa dancing or finally learn how to cook something other than instant noodles. Who knows? The world’s your oyster, and your subconscious seems to agree.

However, if you wake up feeling as if you've been sucker-punched in the gut (or worse crying), it might indicate that there are lingering feelings you need to address. It’s that emotional clutter you've shoved under the bed alongside miscellaneous cables and a forgotten gym membership card.

What I think - and remember, I’m just spitballing here - is that dreams like these are the subconscious equivalent of purging your emotional closet. Out with the old and dusty skeletons, my friend. It’s time to bring in the fresh linen scented with lavender and opportunity.

In the grand scheme of things - people come and go, weaving their threads in and out of our life. A dream like this could be a signal that it's time for that particular thread to snip free, allowing you to continue crafting your personal masterpiece of life --- without them.

Let’s face it, waking up from such a dream definitely requires you to find some light-hearted space. Maybe your brain, in all its fantastical wisdom, is simply saying, "Phew, dodged a bullet there, huh?" Anyway, it’s all about interpretation. The dream could be a subliminal message from your psyche, a random blip on the radar of your brainwaves, or just the result of that expired pizza slice you risked before bed. Regardless of its origin, it provides an opportunity for your -- introspection and growth.

And hey, if you’re feeling a bit out of sorts about it, that’s okay too. It’s natural to feel a bit spooked. Take it as a sign to check in with yourself, to see where you’re at with your past loves and your current life. Trust the process – more often than not, our dreams hold the keys to doors we didn’t even realize were locked.

In real talk, dreams about your ex biting the dust are complex, wrapped in layers of personal feelings and experiences. Don't take it too literally or weigh yourself down with worry. Instead, extract what messages you can, approach your emotional evolution with humor (because life's too short not to laugh). 

Does it mean that you are going through trauma?

It’s possible you dream of death if you’re experiencing some trauma in your life. Or you have had a traumatic experience that has caused you to dream of your own death or the death of someone you care about. One may even dream of death if you are going through a rocky patch in waking life. The inner worries and anxieties explain why you would dream of a person that is dead. It does not mean you’re a negative person; just want to get rid of the person’s presence somehow. Dreaming of someone dying can be traumatic, it is easy to be convinced that to dream of someone’s death means that you’re worried about them, naturally. Death dreams can be interpreted differently. If you dream of yourself dying or someone else died in your dream state, ask yourself how you felt during the dream.

Does dreaming that someone dies related to the relationship with that person?

Yes. To dream of someone dying can refer to the relationship you have with the person in waking life. It’s possible that your subconscious is telling you that your connection is becoming weaker. If you lose connection with the person (in real life) and you dream of that particular person dying, it represents your perspective. If you hurt by the person’s actions this can indicate not feeling respected in life.

Does dreaming of someone dying represent pregnancy?

Death represents the end of life, while pregnancy signifies the birth of a new life. Some people believe that what we dream is usually a prediction of the opposite happening in waking life; therefore, it’s safe to assume this is why death in dreams can be associated with pregnancy in waking life. To dream of death might indicate that someone you know will get pregnant. Many people have proven this true.

Does dreaming of dying represent not being happy in life?

To some degree. To dream of dying might reveal the fact that you’re unhappy in waking life. Do you actually believe that you don’t deserve to be happy? Also, your dream might denote the lack of self-confidence. This dream can also indicate questioning your qualities and life purpose. To dream of someone else dying is also associated with being unhappy in reality. Especially, if you’re jealous of the person and their success in waking life; however, instead of being jealous and greedy, why don’t you focus on your own success?

What does the death tarot card mean?

I am going to mention this because it does have an impact on this dream. The death (XIII) tarot card usually portrays a skeleton. Sometimes, the skeleton is riding a horse; however, more often it’s holding a sickle. Surrounded by death and people dying from all classes including commoners, bishops, and kings, the card tries to remind you of the power of death – no one can’t escape it no matter what.

However, the death tarot card doesn’t represent a physical death but implies an end. It’s possible that a relationship will come to an end in your life. It also represents an increased self-awareness, profound change, letting go of attachments, failure, and depression. It’s also associated with mortality, some unserious illnesses, and fear.

Does dreaming of dying indicate a transition?

Yes, To dream of dying or someone else dying can be terrifying, no doubt about it. But it can also be enlightening and increase your awareness. For example, to dream of an ex from years ago represents your fear of losing them in waking life. This is one of the most common death dreams. You dream of this in order to accept mortality. No one can escape “death” no matter what. You have to accept that the people you love won’t be there forever. And you have to make the most out of life while you’re still alive.

In summary, dreaming of your ex dying can also awaken your spirituality because death in dreams signifies a transition in waking life. You’re leaving behind everything you know, your old life, the old you in order to start fresh someplace where you will be the one in charge of your life. To dream of death can be an enlightening experience. It makes you face death and realize the real value of life, even if you know it’s just a dream.

By Florance Saul
Jan 23, 2024