Dream dictionary meaning Affair

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The dreaded dream of an affair!

Freud stated that to dream of cheating means you are feeling vulnerable in a relationship that is close to you. I will first tell you one thing that is very important. Don't be too alarmed at the nature of this dream. Normally, the meaning is the opposite, and your husband, boyfriend, wife, girlfriend or partner actually loves you very much, or you are worried about a love relationship unnecessarily. Now, if you don't know me my name is Flo, I am a psychic living in sunny (well not so sunny!) England. I have been doing this site for years and years. Most importantly, I can help you decode this dream to understand what it really means. When I first met my partner I had a vivid (to the point I thought it was real) dream about an affair.

Some of my dreams come true and I have a number of what is known as the term "prophetic dreams." So, what are prophetic dreams? Oh, these are basically visions of the future. Anyway, back to my dream of the affair. It was a vivid dream.. even now... I can remember every single detail of this "other" woman, her hair color and what she was wearing, she was even carrying another child. In my dream, my partner had a little girl with the other women. I had that dream 22 years ago! So I hope you get my point. You might think the dream of an affair is the future, but it normally is just your own anxieties in life. I also had a dream I was married to someone I did not know and he had other wives. Yes, that was an odd dream! Anyway, let's move onto what your affair dream really means.

These types of dreams are also very sensual and real. The hot, tactile, and real connections in dreams are more likely to be about actual attraction than dreams where you can remember having an affair or mingling with someone, but not the details. This type of dream is more common in men than it is in women. However, we can all recognize them by their tangible qualities and be honest about our hidden feelings.

Hidden desire may be the reason people believe they have to share their dreams with uninvited partners, but it isn't the true explanation. This is a matter where you can trust your intuition. If you don't find the other person attractive, there are likely other reasons for this dream.

Are you having an affair in real life?

If you are having an affair in waking life it is not uncommon to dream of this. It is unconscious attraction. To dream of a married man's wife or a woman's husband - that you are having an affair within waking life, is your mind connecting to their relationship in the real world. Think about the details of the dream. How did you feel? This will give you a clue about your current relationship. 

What do dreams of an affair actually signify?

Freud believed that affairs are connected to how we feel emotionally in our relationship and it is connected to sex. Yes, I know you are thinking! Try to focus on whether this dream is really about your own inner desires - maybe for sex? Are you getting enough “action?” Most dream analysis that I have read on the subject of an affair indicates that it is simply your own subconscious mind fighting with your own feelings. It could also mean that you are feeling vulnerable and you need to focus on your own life. After having this dream my advice is to think, learn and focus on your relationship.  Are you giving it your partner enough time? 

We all find fulfillment in marriage or romantic love in real life, a dream of an affair either this is happening to you or you are having an affair can rock our world. As people we are all looking for happiness, as I get older in life, the more convinced that I am that we all like unique plants that thrive and flourish under conditions that match our individual nature. Living in a way that is not spiritual nourishing is like us all becoming plants that are dying due to the wrong care and not enough love. If we live in accordance with what we think we should want or need, there is a gradual but steady loss of vitality. The societal pressures, social programming, concerns about appearances, and the idea that one must seek out "the one and only relationship" can become exhausting. Even when we are in the right relationship we often have doubts.  This dream of an affair is telling you to try to recognize your true needs, the dreaming brain seems to rise up and try to help you formulate what is important in life. When this happens, it is possible to have disturbing dreams of affairs that point out the fact that we have forgotten an important aspect of how we love as humansbeings.

What does it mean if you have an affair in your dream?

Now, the dream differs in meaning if you had an affair or your partner! The symbolism is connected to how you feel inside. To dream of having an affair, I think it means you not happy in your current relationship over some aspect, this could be either minor or major - even the fact he leaves the toilet seat up, or she leaves the toothpaste lid off. 

What does it mean if your partner is having sex?

To dream of your partner (husband or wife) having an affair, and in bed with someone else is rather common. It is associated with your anxiety about the relationship. I will tell you something. It is brimming common! I think I have had at least 100 emails this year so far about the subject. Remember it is just your anxiety!

What does it mean when I dream I am NOT in a relationship but not with my partner, husband or wife?

You will not be disappointed. This dream is actually what is known as a sign that you actually hope and wish for more attention in your current relationship! It can indicate that you are committed, but you need to empower this relationship. Dreams of this nature an give us “clues” to our subconscious mind. Yes, you are happy with your partner but you need to create more excitement into the relationship! 

What does it mean to dream of being married or with someone you did not know and they have an affair?

I did touch on this in the opening paragraph, but I had a dream once of being married to a man I did not know who had multiple wife's. It is basically, your inner desires for sex according to Freud! So, my advice, if you are with a partner go have sex. Release that passion tonight!

What do old dream dictionaries mean when it comes to an affair?

To dream that you are committing adultery or had an affair signifies your sexual urges and passion is longing to be expressed. Alternatively, this dream can also indicate a betrayal from your subconscious mind. Don't be alarmed but many older dream dictionaries state that having an affair is a bad omen. Something negative may come into your life, and you may need new approaches to problems. In this modern world "bad omens" are not really discussed spiritually! If you dream of an affair it means that you are seeking to balance yourself, e.g. making sure that you take a balanced view in your life. If you dream of having an affair with someone that you do not know, then it is clear it is time to look at your inner desires: is it time to move on and start a new relationship? Or try harder in your existing relationship. If you are not in a relationship and dream of having an affair, then it is likely a new relationship will come into place.

Detailed dream interpretation:

Firstly, let me reassure you! Almost everybody at some point in life has experienced a dream of being cheated by another, or are cheating on a partner themselves. If the dream or experience is pleasant, then it usually indicates it is time to make progress in solving life's problems. If you have this dream on more than one occasion, it is important that you try to find answers to heal your subconscious. Rather than focusing on the meaning and determining if this is a premonition, you need to ask yourself what feelings you have right now in regards to the relationship and analyze the dream in regards to a connection between the different symbols within your own real-life experiences.

It is important to concentrate on any new feelings that you may encounter in your dream, then try and shake these feelings to reveal what is likely to develop in the future. This may be a moment of trust or an agreement. This dream also indicates being open about a marriage that may be on the way to failure. Dreams are likely to focus on recent events. If you dream of an affair or that your partner is cheating on you, then this can mean you are seeking to balance yourself. This involves making sure that you take a balanced view in your life. Many people who have this dream often think that their partner is cheating. There are times that this may be correct and that your mind is trying to tell you something, but in most cases, this is just a dream and the key message is not to worry about things.

If your partner has had an affair in the waking life, then this dream means the loss or end of an important part of your life. You may feel in your dream that you have put on a brave face, despite how distraught and vulnerable you feel inside. In waking life, it means that it is important to keep your mind free from worry, and at the same time try and find new ways to move forward in your life.

If you dream of a partner this indicates that rebirth is on the horizon. If you dream of having sex with someone that is not your partner, then this can mean you need to put sufficient effort into the relationship, as your partner is not feeling loved at the moment. The meaning of the dream is that the person who you are having relations with will conduct a favor for you.

What does it mean to have a gay affair?

If you are a male and you dream of having gay relations with another man, and this leads to cheating on your partner, it means that you are going to do a favor for another male. If you are a woman then this dream is positive and you will have some fab social gathering in life. A girly night out is in order!

What does it mean if you partner died or had an illness in the dream of an affair?

If your partner encountered an illness or died in the dream, and you had an affair, then this dream suggests you may want to reconsider your travels. Life is far to short and try to enjoy life more!

What does it mean when you both have affairs in the dream?

If you are having an affair or your partner is having an affair with somebody you know, this is a good omen. The degree of your relationship with the lover/acquaintance, and the manner in which you conduct yourself in the dream is connected to the business. Yes, that is right. From this dream you need to learn that you can do anything! This is a message in relation to how your business affairs, don't fret, they will be successful in the future.

Some more interesting things about a dream of affairs.. you must read these!

If you find yourself in a conflict, argument or heated discussion with either your partner or the person whom you have the affair with, then this dream signifies you can expect a series of challenging events in life. People who can provide advice and help you will surround you shortly. If you meet somebody new in your dream it indicates that changes in your life are likely to occur. If you dream of Adam and Eve or any biblical people, then this is a positive omen. Now, the union of famous symbols - such as Romeo and Juliet in a dream indicates you will achieve more in your life.

If you dream that your address or home has changed due to an affair, you have moved out of a property or your partner has, this signifies that you wish to escape from some events which are reminding you of how you behave in a certain situation. To find yourself admiring another, but not actually having an affair indicates that you crave approval from your friends or colleagues. If other people are admiring you because you have had an affair, then this means you are seeking guidance in your life.

Maybe you had a dream of being sexy or have an affair with a famous person?

To feel any type of excitement and stimulation within your dream brings out the need for these types of feelings to actually "happen" in your life. Now I think you are seeking new ways to make your life more exciting. There is something you need to know! This dream is a warning that you need to stop thinking about the future in connection with temptation. If you have an affair with somebody who is famous or is powerful it denotes that you will crave fame in the future.

What if your single in real life?

If you dream of cheating on another, but you are single in real life it shows that sometimes you are feeling exposed and that you have to try to protect yourself and get over the emotional storm. If you are actually left completely and abandoned by your lover, then this can show you are worried about your relationship. This dream generally means that things are symbolic and that your relationship has been under pressure.

Did you dream of having multiple affairs?

To dream that you are committing adultery with more than one person demonstrates that it is time to think about your ambitions, as you have a desire to soar above the multitude and mundane areas of your life. To have a dream of having an affair with someone you know in real life can indicate the feelings you have towards that person.

What does it mean to lose your lover due to an affair in a dream?

This dream may also be a warning about your current behavior or imbalances that you need to solve. If this dream is very similar to a nightmare, then this indicates it is clear you are undergoing stress in your life at the moment. Don't stress that is my advice. Try to focus on the best in life! If you can barely remember the events in your dream featuring an affair, this implies you have been feeling slightly rundown lately. You poor thing!

As I told you in the opening paragraph I had a dream my partner had children with someone else. What does it mean to dream of your lover, partner or husband or wife having children with someone else in a dream? Don't be alarmed, this is not a future vision, well very unlikely. To dream that your partner has kids with someone else is just our own natural anxiety in life. Seeing your partner have a daughter represents that you are emotional at the moment. I feel this is a dream to hone in on your "female" traits. Try to focus on being you more. To dream of your partner having a son with another person can suggest new beginnings in life, according to older dream dictionaries. Right so now we have covered this let's quickly mention some of the stuff I have researched that has not been covered yet.

What are other meanings I have not covered above? 

It is important to identify the main elements seen within this type of dream. If your lover actually abandons you, then this suggests you are encountering feelings of being in love. If your partner leaves you due to having an abortion or termination, this represents the feelings of anxiety which is associated with starting new ventures. Embarking upon an affair shows that you need to approach situations with openness. If you dream that your partner is homosexual, this indicates you or your partner are likely to make a favor for other people in your life. In real life, if you are not in a relationship and dream of having an affair, then it is likely that a new relationship will come to you shortly. To actually go to court over an affair or adultery symbolizes the need of fairness in judgment in your life.

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What do common dreams regarding the affair include? 

You dream that you committed adultery or had an affair with somebody. Filed for divorce based on the fact that your partner was with somebody else. Your partner falls out of love with you, or you find that you have fallen out of love with your partner. You see your partner leaving you. You find your partner in a compromising position. You dream of another person’s partner.

In your dream you may have: 

  • Caught your partner in a compromising position with another person.
  • Seen others having an affair.
  • Failed to win your partner's affection as he has a lover of the opposite sex.
  • Dreamed your partner is bisexual or homosexual.
  • Found yourself suddenly single because of an affair.
  • Your partner has run off with a close relative or friend and left you.
  • Fallen out of love with your partner because of an affair or adultery.
  • Dreamed that your husband or wife is leaving you.
  • Dreamed that your partner does not want to be with you anymore.
  • Experienced an argument or fight over an affair.
  • Not been happily married in your dream.
  • Your partner had an affair.
  • No matter where you are in your dream, you cannot seem to escape the feeling of sadness due to the affair or behavior of your partner or yourself. Your dream features the feeling of complete guilt.
  • You are feeling happy that you have had an affair, and it is time to move on in the relationship.
  • Being involved in some type of sexual encounter, and you are having an affair.

Positive changes are afoot if: 

  • The affair ended, and you were reunited with your partner.
  • You experienced the feeling of relief and overall contentment and happiness.
  • You had an affair in response to his or her affair, which meant you were equal.
  • You successfully won back your lover.
  • The general mood in your dream is of a positive nature, and you are more confident after having your affair.
  • If you encountered any biblical parents such as Adam and Eve in your dream or the divide between feminine and masculine.

This dream is in association with the following scenarios in your life

An area of your life needs to be addressed and thought about, in order for things to change. You may have been thinking about a new approach to worries. Feeling that some area of your life is not 100% correct. Insecurity in regards to a relationship that is important to you. You have lost your temper based on a disagreement with your partner. You have been feeling anxious and quite stressed out lately. Deep down inside you are scared and vulnerable about a relationship.

Feelings that you may have encountered during a dream of an affair

  • Embarrassed.
  • You expressed anger or grief.
  • You found that you were financially vulnerable.
  • Scared of being found out that you are having an affair.
  • Extremely angry at your partner for his feelings to somebody else.
  • The feeling that you are likely to be alone in the world and you will never find a new partner.
  • Relieved. Unhappy. Crying. Scared. Angry. Insecure. Confused. Stupid.
  • Fearful. I cannot face others with confidence.
  • Continuously thinking how you can get your partner back.

By Flo Saul
Oct 4, 2012